10 Traditional Dating Rituals The Tinder Generation Needs To Revisit

1.Approach the woman you like directly and askher out on a date.

Not lets go for a drink or lets hang out sometime. What happened to planning real dates and getting picked up at the door? Now we either Uber or cab it to wherever we are meeting and hope we dont get stood up.

2. Engage your date inmeaningful conversation.

First dates were once all about getting to really know someone. It was OKeven necessaryto ask about family, love, friends, life and talk about the future. It wasnt so much of a taboo as it is now, where we have to stick to small talk so we dont freak each other out or come on too strong.

3.Look like a million bucks.

Women wore glamorous dresses and men often wore suits. I understand it may not be as convenient now, but at least dates were taken seriously enough for someone to show up looking their best. It was an occasion you didnt want to under-dress for, you had to really show up and look the part. You never heard of women going on first dates in flip-flops or men going inprinted tees.

4. Bring flowers.

Once upon a time, itwas the norm to present your datewithflowers at the door. It was considered beautiful, thoughtful and kind and was guaranteed to put a smile on a girls face. It was a major faux pas for amanto showup empty handed. Nowadays we look at such gestures as cheesy or too much too soon. Why?

5. Pay attention.

People were courteous enough to actually pay attention to just each other, not their phone, not the hot waiter or waitress, not the people around them, nothing but the person sitting in front of them. It wasnt obligatory, people truly wanted to intently listen to what the other person had to say, and be truly engaged in the conversation.

6. Dance in the moonlight.

Or slow dance. It’ssuch a classy and romantic gesture, as well asa way to getintimatewithout pushing any sexual boundaries. Dancing was once anact of love, not an invitation to twerk and get hit on by strangers.

7.Keep your promises.

Men followed through with actions rather than making empty promises because they knew their reputation was on the line. If a guymade plans to meet for a second date, it was sure to happen. If he told her hed come to her friends birthday, it was sure to happen. Menwerent flaky or shady or of what their calendar wouldlook like. And they definitely didn’t ghost.

8. Be straightforward.

People were honest with each other about what they wanted and what they didnt want, or whether they were ready for the next step or not. People made theirintentionsclear from day one, sparing each other the hassle of confusion, doubt, unanswered questions and sleepless nights. was something to look forward to rather than go the extra mile to avoid. Everyone knew which part they were playing.

9. Be respectful.

Men respected women. Terms such as ghosting or booty calls were foreign back in the day. It wasnt all about getting lucky that night. Men were always on time, not running late. Respect and dating went hand in hand. If only we couldbring those days back.

10. Send handwritten love letters.

Not everyone used to send love letters, but a fair number did. A love letter was the perfect declaration of love, the moment every man and woman waited for. Some went the extra mile and recited poems and love songs through the window. Words didnt get lost in translation as much as they do now, and no one ever had to deal with texting nightmares andgames, let alone sexts.

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