Dont Ever Be Sorry For Being The Girl Who Cares Too Much

You will always be too much or too little of something. Too outgoing, too bright, too quiet, too shy, too much. When I was in middle school, I stumbled across a quote by Danielle Laporte and it was absolutely perfect:

And that line is so simple, but so true.

Someone will always want you to be a smidge different. There will always be a person who likes you when youre just a little more outgoing or a little more reserved. You will be encouraged to change, to shift, to mold, to adapt. And the world will tell you that once you do that tiny little thing differently, youll be better. Youll be perfect.

But the older I get, the more Ive realized that perfect is boring.

And being you, and all the ways youre too little or too muchthat brings color to your life.

Maybe youre the girl that texts first, who overanalyzes every message before sending, wanting it to say exactly whats on her mind. Maybe you find yourself falling in love too easily, or giving your heart away like its a pin attached to the edge of your sweater sleeve. Maybe youre the girl who has feelings for the boy whos unsure, and you find yourself reading quote after quote about love, wondering if youll ever truly find it.

Maybe youre the girl that stays up late, just to make sure her friends get home safe, or who spends hours listening to someone pour their heart out, even though shes dead-tired and has a laundry list of things to get done.

Maybe youre the girl who has always cared too much, putting everyone elses heart before her own. And maybe, for once, you need to stop apologizing for that.

Youre always going to be too little or too much of something. And in your case, you care too much. But why are we told thats a bad thing? Why are we so convinced that being too much is negative? Because its vulnerable? Because its strong? Because its incredibly brave and rare in this world where were all too damn afraid to be our true selves?

In a world thats always trying to change you, you dont have to be sorry for who you are.

You dont have to be sorry for texting first, for calling when you havent heard from him and want to make sure hes safe, for being the girl that jumps all in, and seeks real love in return. You dont have to apologize for writing love poems or buying him little gifts for no reason at all. You dont have to apologize for all the things you do because you cant help it. Just because you care.

You dont have to be sorry for loving him just a little bit more, because thats how your heart is, sweet girl. It doesnt know how to love with any less than all of it.

And theres nothing wrong with being the girl with feelings, the girl with a heart, the girl that thinks about others and values her relationships. Theres nothing wrong with being the girl that lets people in, that allows herself to be open and honest, that gives and gives and gives, even when people dont deserve it.

In this world of half-love and fear of commitments, in this world of just talking and having a thing rather than dating, in this world of people skirting around their emotions

And its time you stop being ashamed of your big heart.
And its time you stopped apologizing for giving a damn.

Because the world needs more brave, beautiful souls like you.

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